Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Taking over my life (already)... and I'm fine with that!

Yesterday was a crazy day.
My Mom left to return to Ohio which was sad. I already miss her a lot because she is super fun and reminds me to have fun in everything I do. I can sometimes get so serious and focused on things that I forget to smile and have fun. Oh, how I already miss her. She has also been my advisor on everything ‘baby’ so it has been great to already learn so much from her about parenting already! She is one of the few women I know who has had 3 children in 3 different decades. She’s an amazing woman. She has really been my catalyst to get deep into research mode. Thank you, Mom!
After work, I was able to catch up with an old friend Leigh who I used to work with about 10 years ago. It was so great chatting with her. She was so excited about the ‘jelly beans’ and told me that her mother is going to be knitting something for them. That really touched my heart! She also mentioned that she has a ton of friends who have just had babies and have a ton of stuff that they don’t use anymore. She said she would This will be a huge help, especially for those higher priced items. She offered to be my own little baby stuff broker! What an amazing offer! She also mentioned that I was glowing and that I had a confidence about me. I guess the change in my everyday manner is noticeable; that’s something I didn’t know. I definitely feel a change inside of me. She also mentioned that she it seems like everything in falling into place (especially with the whole FRRO regulations). Now that I think about it, I think she’s right. Things are falling into place, and I’m super grateful for that.

After catching up with her, I went to a Board of Director meeting for a city tennis non-profit organization. It was a great meeting as it was my first as Social Director and I made a proposal to help membership numbers and it was accepted/ approved by the board. I feel like I am already having an impact, which makes me feel good. I am also managing two events for the organization this week. I’ll let you know how they go!

After the meeting, I hurried up and picked up Cyncere and went to my friend McFierce’s house. We were all getting together to watch the premiere of ‘The Face’, a reality model search show (ala America’s Next Top Model)! Can I just say that it is my new favorite show! It really stars the legendary Naomi Campbell and she is so hilarious, fierce, and amazing. My friends thought she was a bully throughout the show, but I thought she was fierce and real. I laughed so much during the show because of her and I can’t wait until next week! It’s funny… some people think I am a lot like her but I don’t see it. I mean I have my moments, but these moments are getting fewer and far between. =)

So this baby stuff is starting to take over my life. Every morning when I wake up I play a certain song by Beyonce called ‘End of Time’ The chorus goes something like this:
Come take my hand

I won't let you go

I'll be your friend

I will love you so deeply

I will be the one to kiss you at night
I will love you until the end of time

It is like a little ode to my ‘jelly beans.’ I think it is the perfect song to get my day started and to send positive thoughts and love to New Delhi! I have also redone my weekly schedule so now I allocate about an hour a day researching baby stuff, whether that’s child development, baby supplies, India exit stuff, managing twins, single parent stuff, etc. As per a suggestion, I just downloaded the pregnancy app by BabyCenter (per Leigh’s suggestion) and it tells me how the baby is developing, what foods, I should be eating since I’m pregnant, etc. =) It is very informative. It was a real turning of the tide for me as I downloaded this Baby Center app since most of the apps I used to download were gay-specific apps like Scuff or Grindr; those have been uninstalled/deleted. Given my more focused approach to the pregnancy, I have put less emphasis on meeting guys. This relates to dating as well. I haven’t poo-pooed the idea of dating, it just isn’t a focus at the moment… and I’m fine with that.


  1. You should also check out the What to Expect app. I have both and read them every morning before I get out of bed :)

  2. YEE Jeff and Kevin is right , go to That is the link to the FRRO, read it make sure you follow it to the "T" because they make things good or bad. I was told today that the aussie that pitched a fit last month was finally able to leave last week. Gotta keep you cool no matter how they insault you and be little you because your a gay male. I got to say mine was easier becaue i had a medical visa, I got that one LUCK and even the lady that inerviewed me told me that, I was lucky and she felt that the embassy gave me credit because i did not lie as to why i was going to India when I filled out my application. But read up on rules so you dont get extened. I was there a total of 12 days, the fastest american to go through it so good luck, but you got time so keeo your cool :)