Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Vegas winning and other stories of gambling pregnancy odds

What a great weekend! What happens in Vegas, definitely does not stay in Vegas! We won our basketball tournament.
My team played so well and kept calm and collected throughout our games all weekend. I’m super proud of us! I don’t think we had won a tournament in a while so it was good to get another trophy under our belts. These tournaments remind me of all the camaraderie there is in the league. Even though I have been doing these tournaments for the past 6-7 years, I always seem to meet some amazing guys and make tremendous connections with people.
There is a tournament in Chicago this April. I am not sure if I will make it, but this tournament exceeded my expectations. If this Vegas tournament becomes my last one, I will reminisce with a smile on my face.

A special moment I had this weekend was with Rhea, a legendary player who has been in the league off and on for nearly 20 years almost. He has 2 children, 4 and 5 years-old with his partner. My friend Jeff had, of course, mentioned that I will be a parent soon and that I should talk to him (he is so excited for these babies to come). Once I told him what I was doing as a single parent, he was soooo stoked. He was so encouraging and told me about his path to children. He was going to be a single parent as well but met his partner in the middle of the process. Apparently, he told his potential partner on the first date, that he wanted a family and kids, and , and I quote, “ Are you on board?” What balls! I wish I could be so up front and matter of fact about the process with men. I think I will be more upfront once I get to 12 weeks without complications.

Speaking of a mini emotional roller coaster ride, I got this email on Monday morning (while still drunk leaving Las Vegas):
Dear Anwar,
Greetings from SCI Healthcare...!!! We hope you are doing well. We would like to inform you that as per our schedule we have done a USG scan for Laxmi. Please find attached herewith her scan reports. We would like to inform you that Dr. Shivani has reviewed the reports and noted that " No sac seen ar present". With respect to the same, we will repeat her Beta HCG and will get back to you by tomorrow with the reports. We will keep you updated.

Ummmmmmmm, first of all, I’m gagging on the ‘ar’ typo! Second of all, What! I sent an email immediately asking if my Surrogate Laxmi De was still pregnant! I was under the impression that the expectation as to see a sac at this point. Well, so much ran through my mind. I wouldn’t say it was disappointment. It was more like shock and disbelief. In my heart of all hearts, it just didn’t seem right to me. In my head, I was saying to myself, “This is not how things are going to go.” Luckily, my sister, a mini expert on female biology mentioned to me that that was ok. After doing some more research I realized that sac are normally seen at the 6-8 week mark (we are only in week 3).

The next day I received the following email from the clinic:

Greetings from SCI Healthcare !! We would like to inform you that we have received her repeated beta HCG report which is 653.11. In regards to the same we are happy to inform you that Dr. Shivani found beta value within normal limit. Her beta value is rising as per our expectation. In regards to the same we have planned to do her scan within 6-7 days to check number of pregnancy sac. We wish you good luck ! We will keep you updated.

Still preggers! Whew! I told myself I would discuss every email with my cousin Monique, the new family nurse, as this will be her specialty soon enough. I didn’t know how much I wanted these babies until this point. I’m thankful.


  1. Hey Anwar, thanks for stopping by my blog, wishing you the very best on your journey, your beta reads like it could be multiples! keeping my fingers crossed you!

    1. Thank you so much for that, Gee. I really needed that. I definitely want multiples but will be will be, as they say. I made the mistake of going online and getting involved with beta levels from women all over the world and felt my surrogates levels were relatively low since we transferred embryos New Years Day essentially. I thank you for your kind words and wish you nothing but the best.